I had always dreamt of a beautiful, lavish, white wedding with many blooms of beautiful white flowers... roses... lilies... orchids. Traditional chinese wedding in the morning but everything in white... prob a few reds to complete the tradition. A nice, big, chinese banquet at night with all my close relatives and friends... lavishly decorated in whites.
However, in reality, I had a normal traditional one in the morning... small... simple, not much decoration. At night, just a simple buffet with close friends and relatives. A total contrast from my dream. My hubby did asked me recently whether I regretted it. I ponder for a while before answering him... initially then yes, I felt the slight pang of not fulfilling my dream. But now, after 2 kids, I didn't regret it at all. I've seen quite a number of lavish weddings which have actually turned to divorce. What's the point of it all then? Such a waste of money. The most important thing is that we have each other, to battle on the years ahead, to have and to hold, to cherish every moment... that's what really count and not that BIG day itself. We have our ups and downs, that's life... these are the actual moments which are more memorable... all the little things he does for me like bringing me a cup of water when I was not well, sending me to work even though it's a hassle (FYI I can drive actually), helping me thru labour of our 2 kids, cook for me during our anniversaries or birthdays. It may sound silly but I treasure this moments. I may forget it as I grow older but that's life... can't complaint much of it.